Is this a sign of Empty Nest Syndrome or not caring?

Ok, i%26#039;m a recent graduate, a year early. throughout this previous school year my mother has been all for me going to college, supporting me one hundred percent and never having any objections to my college path that i%26#039;ll be taking. After years and years of wanting to be a nurse, i decided that i would rather go to college for Information Tech. She really didn%26#039;t care about it and said that college was important.

It all came down to getting me a student loan because my family doesnt qualify for financial aide because my step father has a 6 digit annual income. my mother after getting a divorce got horrible credit, and has been denied for student loans for me left and right, and she refuses to have my step dad get one ofr me. She then avoids the subject, says that I%26#039;m just fulfilling my f***head boyfriends dream, and not following the path i always wanted. So she refuses to do anything ABOUT my student loan. Is it her just stalling to keep me here longer? or her not caring.

Is this a sign of Empty Nest Syndrome or not caring?

Why is it your mother%26#039;s responsibility to pay for your education?

Is this a sign of Empty Nest Syndrome or not caring?

I doubt that it has something to do with %26quot;not caring.%26quot; It%26#039;s possible that she%26#039;s stressed out over not being able to provide for your college tuition, and she%26#039;s obviously taking it out on you the wrong way. I would highly recommend that you visit the university yourself and ask about your options. Unless you have a full-time job yourself, it is possible you may qualify for a Pell Grant, using only your income.

Is this a sign of Empty Nest Syndrome or not caring?

Ever think about joining the service? Then you can work your own way though school.

Is this a sign of Empty Nest Syndrome or not caring?

A few things for you to take under consideration. You have talked about being a nurse for a LONG time so of course your mom is concerned that this resent change is not truly what you want. Your mom loves you and wants you to do what YOU want not what OTHERS thinks you should do. School is VERY expensive and yes you in the end will be paying it off since it is a loan however, she doesn%26#039;t want you to spend more then you have to because you are changing your mind because of someone else. My suggestion to you is to say to mom is, %26quot;mom I know you are worried about me changing my mind on what I want to do but Ill be doing my General Education classes at first so NOTHING is set in stone for a few years anyhow. I will think about it depending on what I end up enjoying and interested in in the next few years.%26quot; this way you are going to college, have your mind open, and assuring her that YOU are making up YOUR OWN mind. Don%26#039;t make any promises to one or the other of the areas of studying, you got sometime to figure it out still since you got bs classes to take anyhow to graduate.

Is this a sign of Empty Nest Syndrome or not caring?

Only your mother can answer that one. As a parent who co-signed for school loans for two children, I can tell you it has ruined my credit! Interest was not paid on time when due, payments were not made on time, and it was reported not only to the children%26#039;s credit, but to mine as well. Now I may have to sell the house to cover school loans. But have a serious (non emotional) discussion with your mother. As much as she may want to help you, if the step father refuses, there may be nothing she can do. She may feel as badly as you do.

Is this a sign of Empty Nest Syndrome or not caring?

I think the fact that she does care is what%26#039;s making her angry. She can%26#039;t provide for your education and it makes her feel like a failure. She probably just can%26#039;t bring herself to say to you that she can%26#039;t do it.

From the sound of your question, it seems like your step dad is no longer in the family so why would his income be a consideration in family aid? If it is, then go ask him yourself to get the loans. College is too important to give up without a fight.

Is this a sign of Empty Nest Syndrome or not caring?

Maybe you should talk to her about how you feel and let her know how upset this is making you. No one but her can tell you why she%26#039;s doing what she is.

Is this a sign of Empty Nest Syndrome or not caring?

News flash! Your mother is not responsible for securing your loan. There%26#039;s a reason it%26#039;s called a %26quot;student%26quot; loan... the student gets it.

Is this a sign of Empty Nest Syndrome or not caring?

Is this really your decision? Or are you changing your path for someone else? If you really want to go this route talk to your mother about it again. If she sees that you are really interested in this path she may change her mind. Is there no way you can apply for yourself or are you too young? See what other options are out there, like grants and scholarships.