How are the low-income, the disabled, and the elderly going to be able to purchase private HC insura

Hillary said that she would make it a %26quot;mandate%26quot; for all Americans to purchase private healthcare insurance. Romney and Guiliani say that people can purchase health care insurance through tax credits, and...?

With 47 million uninsured Americans unable to get it, how can our candidates and government EXPECT people like me to able to afford between $1800 to $3000 a month private health insurance policies?

Has anyone really put some serious *thought* into addressing this crisis with the uninsured and low-income--instead of just adding what I see as %26quot;Band-Aid%26quot; solutions to a growing problem here in the country?

How are the low-income, the disabled, and the elderly going to be able to purchase private HC insurance?

Without socialized med and care, there will be no way to accomplish this. What would happen, in my view, is that insurance companies will raise their prices.......as every company does when the govt. starts to pay part of the cost. Small business people, mainly, cannot afford health care costs as it is. Disabled, elderly, as I am, cannot afford anything except medicare and sometimes, AARP help. It would take a total revamping, and putting lids on prices. However, I do know that medicines are highly marked up from their costs. I know this, as my husband once worked for a company where I was allowed to buy medicine at cost plus 10 per cent. I was worried, one day, when I needed to buy meds for my infant..........but, found the very expensive medication to cost me 33 cents, when I only had to pay cost plus 10 % ! I have been angry at the pharmacies since that time.

How are the low-income, the disabled, and the elderly going to be able to purchase private HC insurance?

Perhaps if you neocons actually knew anything but the lies Rush Limbaugh feeds you you could figure it out.

Its called %26quot;Medicare%26quot; and all elderly and disabled people already have it. It is regular health insurance--we pay premiums just like everyone else, though they are somewhat ceaper.

Its been around for 40 years--and Hillary specifically said that program will remain in effect and unchanged.

Don%26#039;t you neocons EVER check your facts??????????????

How are the low-income, the disabled, and the elderly going to be able to purchase private HC insurance?

People who are elderly, low-income and disabled who are not eligible for medicare or medicaid will have a new expanded program under social security.

I am disabled and low income and work and do not have health insurance. So I am looking forward to this requirement. No longer will they be able to refuse to sell me insurance or try to sell it to me at such a preposterous price that it leaves me penniless.

This is the closest thing to National Health that we are going to get until the conservatives learn/ understand how important it is to our economy that this is a healthy country.

How are the low-income, the disabled, and the elderly going to be able to purchase private HC insurance?

and some of the candidates are saying that they will make health ins. available across the board for those of us that are low-income and on disability.

How are the low-income, the disabled, and the elderly going to be able to purchase private HC insurance?

My suggestion is to apply for Medicare but unlike what crabby blindguy seems to think it is not that easy for everyone. My sister has sever asthma which is the number one cause for her losing jobs, yet because she actually works they feel she makes to much on her medico job that doesn%26#039;t pay well and they keep denying her so you need to get your fact strait before you insult someone. Not to mention no insurance wants to cover her because her med expenses are outrageous.

How are the low-income, the disabled, and the elderly going to be able to purchase private HC insurance?

As a person who has resided in a country with socialized medicine and watched the problems the UK has with their medical programs, I can say when you hear Hillary talk about health care, run real fast the other way.

I have known several Canadians who were wealthy and very unhappy with healthcare in Canada and they came to the US to get %26quot;good%26quot; (their term not mine) medical care.

There has to be a solution that will provide good medical care to all but I don%26#039;t know what it is and I don%26#039;t think any of the people running do either.

Why isn't there more protest when TV stations and movie channels "squeeze" out the cl

Just to make room to promote other movies, shows, etc? If I worked on a movie, I would be really TICKED that the second the credits start to roll, they squeeze them over to the side where you can%26#039;t even read them. Also, I don%26#039;t know about you, but I think in many cases, the closing credits are important to the overall experience, either because the background music creates a certain atmosphere that gives closure to the film, or because they are showing %26quot;outtakes%26quot; behind the credits, or whatever. Am I the only one who cares about the closing credits ? It was bad enough when TV networks were the only ones doing it, but now even a lot of the movie channels have jumped on the bandwagon.

Why isn%26#039;t there more protest when TV stations and movie channels %26quot;squeeze%26quot; out the closing credits of movies?

But as the watcher and the station manager, we don%26#039;t care about it at all. I get up and do things until the next show comes on and the station programmers know this. Ergo they still show them, but keep the watcher interested by putting on the next program. Hope this helps!!!

Why isn%26#039;t there more protest when TV stations and movie channels %26quot;squeeze%26quot; out the closing credits of movies?

The actors in the movie are getting paid way to much for their movie to be played on TV... and the television station owns the rights to squeeze those credits. Trust me... they have paid plenty for the abililty to show the movie, if you paid that much you would want to be able to do it too.

Why isn%26#039;t there more protest when TV stations and movie channels %26quot;squeeze%26quot; out the closing credits of movies?

I hate that too! Sometimes I find myself watching a movie that I don%26#039;t really like just to see the credits for a certain actor or song from the movie then they show like 5 names and then make the screen so tiny you have no chance of reading the names!

Paying off debt?!?

Okay, I%26#039;ll admit I screwed up my credit in my late teens/early 20%26#039;s... I have paid off all but 2 store credit cards and I have my two major credit cards (Chase Manhattan and Capital One) in the hands of attorneys that I have payment arrangements with. I%26#039;ve settled on a few of these cards (meaning I paid a rate lower than my actual balance to pay the card entirely off). I have not made a purchase using a credit card since January 2005! Do you think at some point in the future, I would be able to ever get a credit card again that%26#039;s not secured? Also, how long does it take after I pay off a card to get reported to the credit bureau as being taken care off? One more (phew!)- how am I supposed to save with this debt?! I%26#039;ve got a car payment, too ($318.00 per month- thanks to bad credit!)! Any pointers would be a huge help! Thank you kindly :)

Paying off debt?!?

Hey, well I%26#039;m glad that you%26#039;re taking responsiblity for your actions, and you%26#039;ve seen the err in your ways. I%26#039;m not going to be like a couple of posters on here and scold you for what%26#039;s happened in the past. People make mistakes, or the guy that put rubber at the end of pencils wouldn%26#039;t be a genius right now.

I%26#039;ll try to answer the questions that you had in order:

1. Yes, sometime in the future you should be able to get a credit card that%26#039;s not secured. Orchard Bank%26#039;s a good place if you%26#039;re rebuilding credit, but I want to say a couple of things first. Since you haven%26#039;t used a credit card in almost 2 years is a good thing, hopefully now you see how they%26#039;re supposed to be used very lightly to show activity, and in dire emergencies when your checking and savings accounts just won%26#039;t cover it. To be honest with you, a secured credit card would be a better option because you can control the credit line by adding to the deposit and most if not all the deposits gain interest while you%26#039;re buildling credit. This is a great way to discipline yourself to sock a little cash here and there without touching it. Any secured credit card that you get chances are will have a low limit and and high interest rate. At least with a secured credit card you get a fighting chance and you control the credit line.

2.Normally for anything that%26#039;s paid to the credit bureaus can take 30-60 days from when you paid it. Also, like the other poster said, it%26#039;s likely that you may have to pay taxes on the settled amount, so I%26#039;d definitely keep an eye on that.

3. How you can save is to evaluate your budget on everything that you spend and see what can you sacrifice. If you start off by what you can save for that day, usually the week, and ultimately the month will take care of itself.

Now, I don%26#039;t agree with some of the posters on here that you don%26#039;t need to use credit. I%26#039;ve used credit responsibly for years and I%26#039;m debt free. There%26#039;s an old saying that %26quot;It%26#039;s better to have something and not need it, instead of needing something and not having it.%26quot;

I hope this answer helps

Paying off debt?!?

閳?I am going through the same thing... but I%26#039;m 19... I got myself into some debt with a cell phone company and 2 checks written that I had the money for at the time, but when it went through it didnt... it got all messed up. I%26#039;ve legally paid for the two bad checks in full.. however I have this cingular bill for $1211.00... They have offered to settle for $606 which would be GREAT!, but I just dont have the money to pay them by August 4th when they want... I%26#039;ve written a zillion letters and have tried to make payment arrangements but the only options they give me are pay $1211, pay half now and half in 10 days, or pay the 606 by August 4th. I really need to work on my credit, because my fiance and I will be trying to get into a house very soon and I need the credit...

閳?Sorry I babbled... as for your situation.. did you get the car before or after you%26#039;d paid some of the debt? Because if you got it before, then take it back to the dealer/bank and see if you can get a lower interest rate and a lower monthly payment. In some cases they will do that. If you paid some off then got the car simply keep up on your cc payments and work on establishing better credit.

Good Luck!

Paying off debt?!?

Hon, go to this web site www.daveramsey.com (I%26#039;m pretty sure that%26#039;s his addy) and read about how to get debt free. He%26#039;s been there, I%26#039;ve bben there and now own a home free and clear...NO MORTGAGE. You can also listen to him on radio, but go to web site and find out where for your location. He really can help and does not ask for your money!!!

Oh, and did anyone tell you you will have to pay taxes on the money that the credit card companies %26quot;write off%26quot;? Yep, it%26#039;s true...we went through this three years ago and got a 1099 form from Household Bank and our tax accountant said it%26#039;s a good thing too cause they can come back in a few years and ram you for it and the interest. SO be careful about settling those cards folks!!

Paying off debt?!?

After all you%26#039;ve been through, why in the world would you ever want another credit card? It%26#039;s great that you haven%26#039;t used a credit card since 2005. There%26#039;s no reason to ever use one again. Unless you like being in debt and want to go through all this again.

1. Get on a written budget. You%26#039;ll be amazed at where you money goes. List essentials first: lights, water, mortgage, food. etc. Then your other bills.

2. Save 1000 dollars into an emergancy fund. Have the emergency fund so you don%26#039;t have to charge when Murphy comes.

3. I%26#039;m going to challenge your assertion that you have a 318 dollar car payment because of bad credit. You have a 318 dollar car payment because you bought the car you did. You could have found something cheaper, right? Consider selling the car and getting something cheaper.

4. Pay cash.

Paying off debt?!?

its good that you are taking steps to get your debts paid off. Your credit score/report is a lot like getting healthy/losing weight. It takes time and can be a big pain, but overall you will be able to make progress and there is very little that will have a permanent effect.

I would go ahead and contest the debts that you have already settled. In some cases a collector will no longer respond to the credit bureaus request to update data if there is no longer a financial interst in the debt.. if they fail to respond it will pop off your credit report... Also, when you settle I would try and write up a stipulation that the creditor will no longer make any verbal or written communications about the debt in any form in perpetuity... this will also prevent them from responding to your contesting the debt...

There are a lot of places that can give you help and guidance, I would just choose wisely,. with time and effort it shouldnt cost you anything.

Also, you may have to pay taxes on the settlements (IF the written off amount is over $600 and is applied against the amount of your insolvency...)

Best of luck

Paying off debt?!?

Inform the credit card company about your emergency situation and the debt it caused. Explain to them your financial condition, and any foreseeable improvement that you are able to visualize. Credit card companies thrive on their clients and they don%26#039;t want to loose them. A client who is willing to repay all the debt is a very good asset for them, which they would like to keep forever.

If you are unable to handle debt personally, seek credit counseling and get pertinent advice, so as to get rid of the debt as soon as possible.

If you have more than one credit cards and the confusion on handling their repayment schedule caused you this debt, try debt consolidation. It can be both secured and unsecured. Debt consolidation will help you turn multiple credit card debts into a single one with easier repayment option. Read more from: http://www.credit-card-gallery.com/artic...

Can someone decifer this "special test"?

Applying this special test to divorced or separated parents. If a child is treated as the qualifying child of the noncustodial parent under the rules for children of divorced or separated parents described earlier, only the noncustodial parent can claim an exemption and the child tax credit for the child. However, the noncustodial parent cannot claim the child as a qualifying child for head of household filing status, the credit for child and dependent care expenses, the exclusion for dependent care benefits, and the earned income credit. Only the custodial parent or other eligible taxpayer can claim the child as a qualifying child for these four tax benefits. If the custodial parent and another eligible taxpayer both claim the child as a qualifying child for any of these four tax benefits, the IRS will disallow all but one of the claims using the tie-breaker rule in Table 6.

Can someone decifer this %26quot;special test%26quot;?

Maybe an example would make it easy.

Child lives with Mom. Mom allows Dad to claim the child by giving him a Form 8332 which he files with his tax return.

Dad gets the exemption and the Child Tax Credit. That%26#039;s all that he gets. He files as Single.

Mom files as Head of Household, claims the Child Care Credit and Earned Income Credit.

Screw the system..?

You have a 200 dollar credit card. thangs happen and woops you cant pay it and it goes on your credit. They close your account. Your credit goes down. You pay it off and your credit goes down again. I am tired of it. What have you done to screw the system? and dont tell me how to raise my credit score cause i dont care, I want to screw the system. I dont want someone to tell me how to raise my score or how to pay my bills. Things happen. The goverenment taxes my paycheck and then tax the stuff I buy... I want my money back. So if there are any devils out there give me your worst! if you have a problem with this post you can find another happy post you can answer. I will be happy to give anyone a thumbs down.

Screw the system..?

If You don%26#039;t care about %26quot;YOU%26quot;, why should WE? Just do wot aver you fill, and fix you anger.

P.S. I check your profile, you are very intelligent man, what happen? Did you have to much to drink, or your mother in low still driving you crazy.

Screw the system..?

Commit a non-violent crime which results in jail time. Live for free for a while, go to school, earn an education.

Have terrible medical condition - do above - force jailers to pay for heart transplant.

Get another credit card, don%26#039;t pay it off. Die. Leave a balance which can never be collected.

Screw the system..?

Sounds like you have all the answers. What%26#039;s the question?

Screw the system..?

There use to be a poker player that won the worlds championship at blackjack poker for numerous years, he was asked once what rules does one use when playing. His comment was %26quot;The rules in poker are the same as the rule in life.%26quot; It is the Golden Rule. If you want a chance to get someone%26#039;s gold you have to play by their rules.

Best way to screw the system is don%26#039;t buy on credit, or consider using someone else%26#039;s credit.

Screw the system..?

You can visit www.cashguru.info and find very useful tips and several articles on credit related matters.

Bankruptcy or Foreclosure/?

My house has been for sale for 6 months. I am struggling to make payments on everything including $9000.00 worth of

debt other than my home loan. I am facing a negative equity situation even if house sells and I don%26#039;t know where I%26#039;d get the money to bring to closing if need be. My credit is perfect and I am getting married in June. I won%26#039;t need the credit so I can live with bad credit for a while if need be as we don%26#039;t plan to buy anthing together. Anything we do buy in the future will be in his name.. I do not want the bankruptcy or foreclosure to impact my husband-to-be%26#039;s credit I need to take care of this before we get married right?. It%26#039;s my problem. Not his.

What is the quickest way to a clean slate? Bankruptcy or Foreclosure? I keep hearing about people who are facing a negative equity situation and have been making timely pmts, but know they won%26#039;t be able to pay for the difference when they sell their house for less %26amp; they just stop making payments allowing foreclosure.

Bankruptcy or Foreclosure/?

You can file a individual bankruptcy in only your name and it will not affect your spouse (or soon to be spouses) credit.

When you stop making the payments on your home the house will go into foreclosure. The state will auction it off. If they sell it for less then you owe, you will be responsible for the %26quot;deficiency balance%26quot; unless you have a non-recourse loan.(certian states) They will then most likely come after you for the balance. You may then want to file bankruptcy (ch. 7) to wipe the debt that they will say you owe clean. (esp. if your in a negative equity situation)

If you want to do an bankruptcy first and keep your house you can %26quot;reaffirm%26quot; your home loan and keep paying that, but have your other debts wiped clean.

Either way, unless your spouse signed the mortgage loan, he will NOT be affected by the bankruptcy or have to file with you.

Good luck with it all :)

Bankruptcy or Foreclosure/?

try short selling your property. You will lose money, but it is better than a foreclosure. Don%26#039;t change your name yet, so he won%26#039;t carry it.

Bankruptcy or Foreclosure/?

Bankruptcy may be the best of your available options.

If done before you wed..it shouldn%26#039;t impact upon your husband-to-be.

You%26#039;ll be a bankrupt on paper...but with your hubby...as long as he is solvent and has good credit...you%26#039;ll manage just fine.

After a number of years...you%26#039;ll be OK again.

Bankruptcy or Foreclosure/?

Before doing either and ruining your credit you might want to talk with a Foreclosure Counciling Service like Free Foreclosure Prevention http://freeforeclosureprevention.net They deal with these situations everyday and can probably help.

Bankruptcy or Foreclosure/?

you might want to look into counseling with a lawyer but i%26#039;ve been told my my friend who works as a realestate agent..that it%26#039;s better to go thru Bankruptcy....there%26#039;s chapter 7 and chapter 13....chapter 7 you pretty much walk away from all your dept and after 5 yrs it should be discharged from your credit and chapter 13 pretty much means that all ur finances get reorganized but your still in debt....foreclosure is really the worse way to go....but once again this is something you should really discuss with a lawyer..they%26#039;ll always give you a better insight...good luck!

Bankruptcy or Foreclosure/?

Lots of people think that once they閳ユ獫e filed for bankruptcy they will be unable to ever get a loan again, and ultimately they are unable to do anything financial ever again. This isn閳ユ獩 always true, there are%26lt;!--always ways to improve your financial standing, and there are also ways to repair your damaged credit rating.

http://best-loans.awardspace.com/Bankrup...

In fact one of the best ways to improve your credit rating is to refinance your home mortgage, this--%26gt;will help to improve your credit history in a number of different ways.

Okay...heres a good one...Help anyone...?

I sell caskets. I got a relay-call from a guy (deaf call)...wants to buy most expensive casket. He says...charge his credit card...he%26#039;ll take care of shipping. Then email him approval code. He%26#039;s in TX, Card holder in Colorado...casket going to Canada and..shipping company in Guam. He calls back...Now, his shipping company doesnt take credit cards. so..he wants me to charge shipping cost of $850 to card...then western union..the shipping money to shipping company. then they will pick up. This happened last month. Many emails...back and fourth...during last relay call..he gives credit card number, then investigator comes on line and reports fraudulant card numbers and must disconnect..he donesnt know she came on. Then..many emails later he realizes I cant do this. Now.....he calls again..this week. .he%26#039;s a different person...same credit card # and calling me at work.. I changed my name and email add for this call. He%26#039;s in area code 801...What do I do?

Okay...heres a good one...Help anyone...?

First of all, he deserves to know when someone else is on the line and you have the responsibility to make sure he is receiving effective communication. Be upfront and tell this person that you had a problem with the card before and that he needs to contact his credit card company. This might not even be a deaf person, but someone using a TTY to try to fraudulently purchase a casket (movie plot anyone?) ... the only thing you have control over is your side of the conversation. What is the business policy if you have someone in the business with a fraudulent card? Do the same thing. Just because the person is using a TTY doesn%26#039;t mean your business practices go out the window. Also, you can contact your local Disability, Business and Technical Assistance Center and they will give you information free of charge.

Okay...heres a good one...Help anyone...?

Time to call the FBI...unless it%26#039;s one of them....

Okay...heres a good one...Help anyone...?

contact your states attourny general and your local dist attourney

Okay...heres a good one...Help anyone...?

i would report him to the credit card company, give them all the info because i think he%26#039;s scamming people. the whole thing sounds weird to me. actually i would contact your local police and ask them what to do.

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

clinton -family medical leave act

cut taxes of over 15 million working families

adoption -earned income tax credit

increased adoption and foster care funds by 600 million

increased head start funding by 700 million

signed adoption and foster care act

passed the family support and preservation program

increased funding for (wic)-women, infants, and children program.

passed major funding increases for homeless programs

made low income tax permanent

signed crime bill-making streets safer for childen

signed social secuirty independency act

made low income family tax credit permanent

signed comprhensive child immmunization plan

increased medicare and medicaid funding

passed student loan reform act

created 15 million jobs

signed elemantary and secondary education act reauthorization

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

Bush has given teachers and parents many examples to show children how not to speak or to write. Bush has butchered the English (and the Spanish) language.

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

Yeah Bush has killed a bunch of them! Impeach this moron!

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

not one good thing

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

nope

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

ooooo i got one! ..................... wait no.

HES DONE NOTHING!

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

He took a religious stand, showing that it is important to live out your beliefs and be yourself, not just go where the wind blows you.

I%26#039;m not a Bush fan, but the village idiot is whipping the Dems because he%26#039;s not wishy-washy. He%26#039;s and idiot and he knows it and he%26#039;s gonna make idiot decisions and he%26#039;s gonna stand by them damn it!

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

Stop posting questions Al Gore and go look for your Manbearpig!

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

Clinton never, never, never, never ever cut taxes....more liberals revising history.....Bush is the one who cut your taxes dipshit. Clinton%26#039;s economic policies...of which there were none...can be directly related to the Enron(yup that was under his admin) and the Tech bubble burst late in 1999. Get your facts straight.....the last democrat to cut taxes was JFK.

Also, since 1994 the congress has been republican...they were the ones who wrote all those bills.

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

Other then send a bunch of kids to their deaths to fight his oil war, i cannot think of one good thing he%26#039;s done for children and families.

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

Destroyed their future, financially, morally as well as a peaceful and respecable place in the global community.

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

I gotta say...he%26#039;s made it pretty rough on my family. I love the way he%26#039;s helping out weather patterns also. Think I%26#039;ll go try to purchase a Katrina-damaged bus on E-bay and use it to live in.

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

let me think hmmmm thinking hmm nope not one sorry

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

Do you mean any thing other then make this country very hard to live in?? At 65 I%26#039;ve seen 1 or 2 men in there and think this guys nothing but bad news.. Your friend from Tennessee...ROB

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

clinton%26#039;s the reason were in the mess were in right now. he was handed osama 3 times and didn%26#039;t take it. probably receiving money from them. and he refused to sign a treaty with Israel that would have eliminated Hezbollah.

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

He made it so those durn queers couldn%26#039;t marry up!

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

Hundreds in the US ill start off with eh eh damn it i thought i had one

Children and families outside the US made sure they die a pleasant death underneath the rubble or from an israeli or american shell ending there lives. Great man isnt he??

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

ABSOLUTELY NOTHING THATS WHY I HATE THE MAN.

The only thing he%26#039;s done for our children and families is killed their loved ones.

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

His legacy will endure for many years. He has:

Mortgaged our children%26#039;s future with his tax cuts.

Destroyed the environment.

Invaded the wrong country, creating permanent enemies.

Crushed international respect for our country.

Embarrassed us with his inept speaking and lack of reading.

Promoted global warming through denial.

Supported corporations over people.

Opposed science, medicine, and research.

Appointed reactionaries to the Supreme Court.

Opposed women%26#039;s rights.

Increased the gap between rich and poor, and undermined the middle class.

Forgotten to fund mandates such as No Child Left Behind.

And on and on, ad infinitum, ad nauseum.

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

he took away the health care for the poor,he send them over to Iraq and die and split there family apart.The people that have health insurance,it sky high and people have to get a 2nd job or don%26#039;t have health Insurance,Gas price high don%26#039;t care it a free market.want to have free trade not fair trade so people lose there job I think he did a lot

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

yes the military offers poor americans a leg up to the bottom rung of american society at around 14,000 a year and if your family is lucky you can return home go to school and get a job at mcdonalds as the assistant to the assistant head casher and work your way into the advanced manegment training program .

after ten years you will be the head front end manager and make a whopping 11.75 an hour and can work 33 hours a week if you want .

ON call all the time cause you are scheduled only 28 hours a week you must remain available and can not work any place else r risk not moving ahead in the company .

AFTER 5 more years you are now the assistant to the assistant manager and some day soon that big promotion will come your way .SO now after 4 years in the military 4 years in college 15 years on the job you are over forty and your carrer is over cause some white kid is fast tracked into your job in 6 months .you blow a gascket and kill 15 employees and got to jail . SO most people skip it all and just rob a bank or store or whatever to get by on and plan on spending most of there lifes behind bars anyhow.

bush and company are great for america .lots of service jobs for our boys to come home to after the war is over .

Can you name one thing bush has done for our children and families in this country?

david c - more liberal revisionism... he couldn%26#039;t do anything without approval from Congress - from 1995 on he had to deal with a Republican congress... david c - talk to some of your liberal whacko buddies, most of them are downright ticked off that Clinton signed the welfare reform act, Congress backed him into the corner on that one, it took a lot of spinning to make his liberal buddies believe that was a a good idea... Of course, when he signed he made like it was His idea....

All the tax cut legislation came out of the Republican Contract with America that allowed the GOP to regain control of both houses of congress.

david c... have you noticed any terrorist attacks since 9/11? This country is much safer now than when the President took office - even someone with all of your intelligence and your degrees should be smart enough to figure that out. His tax cuts have spurred job growth unprecedented since the Reagan years, and guess what - liberals hate this, but the deficit actually shrank because of the tax cuts, just like he promised...

david c - that is very good that you learned how to cut and paste from democrat web sites into Yahoo Answers, but you should ask permission from your day care helpers before you hurt yourself with a scissors... I could cut and paste a long list of legislation passed since 2001, but you wouldn%26#039;t read it anyway. We have a stronger, more secure country, a stronger economy, more jobs and are involved in defeating terrorism - which your buddy Bill the Rapist would never do, because his poll takers might find out that some people are against standing up to terrorists...

david c, let%26#039;s hear about you love serial rapists and think that it is a good thing that they are not prosecuted for their crimes... come on david c, put down your crayons and actually engage in a discussion of real issues...

If Ron Paul abolishes the IRS how will we take those healthcare deductions and credits?

I was told this is is plan for healthcare..............It is time to take back our health care. This is why I support:

Making all medical expenses tax deductible.

Eliminating federal regulations that discourage small businesses from providing coverage.

Giving doctors the freedom to collectively negotiate with insurance companies and drive down the cost of medical care.

Making every American eligible for a Health Savings Account (HSA), and removing the requirement that individuals must obtain a high-deductible insurance policy before opening an HSA.

Reform licensure requirements so that pharmacists and nurses can perform some basic functions to increase access to care and lower costs.

Additional bills he sponsored:

(They reduce health care costs)

HR 3075 provides truly comprehensive health care reform by allowing families to claim a tax credit for the rising cost of health insurance premiums. With many families now spending close to $1000 or even more for their monthly premiums, they need real tax relief-- including a dollar-for-dollar credit for every cent they spend on health care premiums-- to make medical care more affordable.

HR 3076 is specifically designed to address the medical malpractice crisis that threatens to drive thousands of American doctors- especially obstetricians- out of business. The bill provides a dollar-for-dollar tax credit that permits consumers to purchase %26quot;negative outcomes%26quot; insurance prior to undergoing surgery or other serious medical treatments. Negative outcomes insurance is a novel approach that guarantees those harmed receive fair compensation, while reducing the burden of costly malpractice litigation on the health care system. Patients receive this insurance payout without having to endure lengthy lawsuits, and without having to give away a large portion of their award to a trial lawyer. This also drastically reduces the costs imposed on physicians and hospitals by malpractice litigation. Under HR 3076, individuals can purchase negative outcomes insurance at essentially no cost.

HR 3077 makes it more affordable for parents to provide health care for their children. It creates a $500 per child tax credit for medical expenses and prescription drugs that are not reimbursed by insurance. It also creates a $3,000 tax credit for dependent children with terminal illnesses, cancer, or disabilities. Parents who are struggling to pay for their children%26#039;s medical care, especially when those children have serious health problems or special needs, need every extra dollar.

HR 3078 is commonsense, compassionate legislation for those suffering from cancer or other terminal illnesses. The sad reality is that many patients battling serious illnesses will never collect Social Security benefits-- yet they continue to pay into the Social Security system. When facing a medical crisis, those patients need every extra dollar to pay for medical care, travel, and family matters. HR 3078 waives the employee portion of Social Security payroll taxes (or self-employment taxes) for individuals with documented serious illnesses or cancer. It also suspends Social Security taxes for primary caregivers with a sick spouse or child. There is no justification or excuse for collecting Social Security taxes from sick individuals who literally are fighting for their lives.

If Ron Paul abolishes the IRS how will we take those healthcare deductions and credits?

With no IRS and no income tax.. there will be nothing to take *any* kind of deductions from. There will also be no way to use an income tax system to penalize some and reward others depending on who is in or out of favor with politicians.

If Ron Paul abolishes the IRS how will we take those healthcare deductions and credits?

After Reading your article I could no longer hold back my disgusting grin in knowing that this article is full of tyrannical rules imposed upon everybody. I don%26#039;t care what class of people they are.

For example : ..............It is time to take back our health care. ?? What health care have we really had? We never had no law stating that health care was a right in the constitution. It is an opportunity. Our constitution gives us the ability to prosper and on and on. The Constitution does not give govt the right to impose their form of tyranny against companies who do not want to provide health care for free to those who can not pay for their services. That is one example on who is losing their freedoms first so we the polotarant are next.

Next in the article states this

%26quot;Eliminating federal regulations that discourage small businesses from providing coverage.%26quot;

So we have regulations in place to discourage small business%26#039;? why?

I thought we had liberty.

Reform licensure requirements so that pharmacists and nurses can perform some basic functions to increase access to care and lower costs.

So we are not free. We just think we are.

HR 3075 provides truly comprehensive health care reform by allowing families to claim a tax credit for the rising cost of health insurance premiums.

So govt has to make laws that allow people to do things that they do not want to do. If the rich lose their rights where does that leave the poor?

If Ron Paul abolishes the IRS how will we take those healthcare deductions and credits?

He%26#039;s not going to be able to dismantle the IRS. Half of what Ron Paul says he supports he simply won%26#039;t be able to accomplish. It%26#039;s good to debate some issues, but realistically, who can solve healthcare? It%26#039;s been an issue for years and to expect that one man (or woman) can solve the issue unrealistic. Healthcare is the new gay marrige-just a wedge issue.

If Ron Paul abolishes the IRS how will we take those healthcare deductions and credits?

Enigma, I see that you are comparing apples to oranges. You are comparing a conservative philosophy to a liberal philosophy. Ron Paul is a conservative libertarian. Your idea of a healthcare plan is that of a liberal doctrine. Why is the apple not like an orange? Because it%26#039;s an apple!

I have already answered a similar question of yours, so I will not repeat in detail. But in essense, you are assuming that these two things are mutually exclusive. They are not.

Ron Paul will create a presidential or executive order or a bill to abolish the IRS, but he will let the congress decide. If the bill passes the congress, then and only then will the IRS be abolished. Until then, you will still have to pay federal income taxes, and you will be able to claim your deductions to their fullest legal extent.

But if the bill passes the congress, then you will save the federal income taxes that you used to pay to the IRS, and you will still be able to deduct your healthcare expenses from state income taxes.

If Ron Paul abolishes the IRS how will we take those healthcare deductions and credits?

HR 4624 is the bill which will allow pharmacist to bill for services under medicare/medicade. Right now, if a pharmacist performs a service, we can%26#039;t get paid for it. You have to use some odd ball ways to get paid for services. When you do get paid, your reimbursement rate is lower than an associates degree physician%26#039;s assistant. Pharmacists want to get involved, but can%26#039;t because it will loose money.

Im fallin 4 him but does he really like me or just using me for sex??

Id just come out a 2 yr relationship which was quite a bad one, then 1 night round a mates i saw a mate i hadnt seen for a while and i did fancy him, we got drunk that night and had sex, after he was really interested in me and wanted to see me all the time, i didnt think anything of that night as i still loved my ex, but took things casually and told him i dont want a relationship, we%26#039;ve been seeing eachother about 4 months now, and im finding myself fallin 4 him, but i really dont think hes bothered about me at all, i call him now, if i dont he can go 2 weeks without contacting me, then says i got no credit, i feel he dont care for example i stayed over at his the other night, and got really ill during the night with my kidneys i was in excruciating pain and couldnt sleep, iwas keeping him awake so i gave him a kiss and went home at 6 am just so he could get some sleep, 3 days with no tx or call, so i called him, he said he got no credit but i knew he did, he just dont care does he??

Im fallin 4 him but does he really like me or just using me for sex??

find someone who does care.....you were worried about keeping him awake.it shouldnt be like that. if you are in pain he should hold you.take care of you not just ignore you huni..... why dont you stop seeing him and go out and enjoy yourself. you were tied down in a bad relationship for 2 years i think you should give yourself some credit and go out and enjoy being single.u only live once,why not make it worth your while. xx

Is there any kind of help from a bad finance place?

I got a car almost 2 years ago from a place that is supposed to help people with bad credit. I have had nothing but problems with them in the last year. Now that the car is almost paid off, they keep calling me daily harassing me, telling me that I have not been paying them, when I see the payments being taken out of my checking account. They not only harass me, but my mother as well, telling her that I have not made any effort to resolve this with them, that I have not made any payments to them at all, even if I had just spoken to them minutes before they call her!! They even put on my credit report that I have not paid them in 30 days!!

Well now that the car is 3 weeks from being paid off, they came and repossessed it. I was just wondering if any one knows if there is a way I can get help with this, I just want it off the credit report, I don%26#039;t care any more that I don%26#039;t have the car! It hasn%26#039;t even ran since January! Thanks to all those who try to help and read this!

Is there any kind of help from a bad finance place?

Dan if you have documentation form your bank that you%26#039;ve made the payments on time, I would hire an attorney to sue them.

Is there any kind of help from a bad finance place?

Get written proof that the payments were being taken out of your bank account. Sue them in small claims court.

When you spoke to the people in the office, did they not acknowledge they were debiting your bank account? Did you send them proof that the money had been taken from your account?

Is there any kind of help from a bad finance place?

Contact the three main credit report bureaus, and write your side of the story. If you have copies of the payments, send those in as well. As to the car, make out a police report, and claim that it was stolen. If you have made your payments, they have no right to repossess your car.

Question about qualifying for a mortgage?

If I have a good credit score but yet have collection accounts on my credit report. Will a lender want me to pay off my collection accounts before giving me a mortgage? Or will the good credit score be all they care about?

Question about qualifying for a mortgage?

They will probably want the collections settled first. Underwriters hate uncertainty.

P.S. Do NOT deal with on-line %26quot;brokers%26quot; who post replies here.

Question about qualifying for a mortgage?

Depends on the loan program you apply for, most want collections paid off at or prior to closing. However, there are a few that don%26#039;t require this, which often have a slightly higher interest rate. Also, how much they%26#039;re for and how many collections you have will be a facotr in whether you have to pay them off.

What should I do ?

Hi I am a 24 year old mother of 3, I have a six year old boy, a 5 year old stepdaughter who lives with me, and an 8 week old baby. My fiance is a good guy, he works hard for his family, but he does not really help much with the kids and the house. He has 19 pets and they fill our small four bedroom house. I was in college part time and am now at home with the new baby for a few more weeks. Financially we are in a hole. My fiance likes to buy whatever he wants whenever he wants it, which has accumulated major credit card debt. I take care of his daughter most of the time and she does get a little annoying. I am starting to feel like I%26#039;ve taken on too much as such a young age and with no help in return. No one understands what I%26#039;m going through and I feel all alone. I constantly clean the house, take care of the kids, wake up with the newborn for all the feedings, everything is on me. I feel that maybe I should start trying to move out on my own with just my own two children, Help,advice

What should I do ?

him not helping doesnt mean he doesnt love you. many men are like this. tell him you need some help. your kids are old enough to help too. with 3 kids and a house full of pets, perhaps the house doesnt need to be spotless.

What should I do ?

You may be very much in love with him but he is not very much in love with you. He is using you.

Lady get out NOW while you are still young. If he truly loves you, then you moving out will be a wake up call for him and he will change. But you have to prove your serious about leaving him. Also just because he says he changes doesnt mean he will. Make him prove it by him showing more responsibility. And marriage wont change him either. So be careful.

Personally if I were you Id just leave and not look back. Its hard enough taking care of 2 kids without all that extra burden he is putting on you.

ITunes card?

When I created me account for the iStore, I used my credit card, but I reciently got a iTunes card for my birthday, so I was wondering how I switch it from my credit card to my iTunes care..

Thanks!

ITunes card?

you don%26#039;t need to switch you just get credits added to your account. go into reedeem and then type in the cards #

ITunes card?

All you do is go into the iTunes store and click redeem (right column). Then on the back of your iTunes card rub off the black strip and enter your %26quot;code%26quot;. Then up in the right hand corner of the navigation bar you will see how much money you have left on the card. Once the card runs out of money you will go back to paying with your credit card automatically.

I am in dire straits financially, how do i dig myself out?

My father remarried when I turned 18, and his new wife had a problem with my Brother and I, so my pop kicked us out.

I used every bit of credit I had to take care of my brother and I.

Times where hard, we slept in our car and somethimes cheap hotels.

I payed the min for a long time but the company i worked for when Bnkrpt and I lost my job. i got a part time job but decided it might be better to go back 2 school. I go to school full time and baby sit a friends children in exchange for shelter,food and minimal suppiles.

I tried to go to school work and babysit, but my schedule is just to busy and I have other responsiblites.

To the point, I%26#039;m 23k in debt and I don%26#039;t have a job, consumer credit can%26#039;t help me unless i have one.

When I call my creditors they want me to make promises i cant keep.

What should I do to get myself on track?

** please don%26#039;t make suggestions that my brother should get a job and help me, he%26#039;s not mentally able.**

thanks for all your advice.

I am in dire straits financially, how do i dig myself out?

Sorry, to hear about your hardships. The money isn%26#039;t going to role in over night, maybe nobody can really answer this. I could make a few suggestions. You sound like a motivated person who would like some sound answers. Social Services in your area can offer you a cash grievance, so you wouldn%26#039;t have to sleep in your car. Taking care of your brother, you are eligible for monthly aid also. Proof, of his handicap would be required. There are food stamps, welfare, medical aid. We all pay taxes so that would be offered to you. This is America, with the outlook that you have about getting your education you can do anything. You aren%26#039;t alone I have been where you are. You don%26#039;t need a quick fix, you need support! The average American has 9,000 on credit cards... You can get help, sound like a plan?

I am in dire straits financially, how do i dig myself out?

It seems the main problem is lack of a job. If you go to careerbuider.com, and post your resume, the site will give you ( literally ) a tuckload of job recommendations. I just got a great one myself from careerbuilder. The beauty of it is...IT%26#039;S FREE!!! I%26#039;m trying to get out of a hole, also. Hang in there, tiger! You%26#039;ll be okay. All you need is a little cash flow. You could also try monster.com, and jobfinder.com which are also free, but I prefer careerbuilder.com.

I am in dire straits financially, how do i dig myself out?

I can%26#039;t believe your dad would kick you out that is just wrong. Anyways its not easy catching up. One thing I could suggest is go to School Part Time and then see about picking up a job. Bills pile up, especially credit cards. I had 17k in credit card debt went into consolidation because they said they could pay that debt off for 12k so will see in about 18 months if that holds true. I was looking to save 5k in the long run. I pay consolidation about 335/month and they hold off paying the CC companys. So it hurts my credit but in the end its trying to teach me discipline. If your dad could help by like getting a personal loan that would help out. Good Luck....

I am in dire straits financially, how do i dig myself out?

I%26#039;m sorry to hear your situation. Do you not have a job because of home obligations to your brothers caretaking? Perhaps you can get some help in that area which will allow you the time and convenience of being able to get ou and get a job. I agree the internet is a great source of income. Best of Luck to you.......

I am in dire straits financially, how do i dig myself out?

You need to see a lawyer about Chapter 7 bankrupcy. There are lots of them where the first visit is free. It costs about $700 though...is there anyone who can lend you that much?

I am In Big financial trouble, what can I do to dig myself out?

My father remarried when I turned 18, and his new wife had a problem with my Brother and I, so my pop kicked us out.

I used every bit of credit I had to take care of my brother and I.

Times where hard, we slept in our car and somethimes cheap hotels.

I payed the min for a long time but the company i worked for when Bnkrpt and I lost my job. i got a part time job but decided it might be better to go back 2 school. I go to school full time and baby sit a friends children in exchange for shelter,food and minimal suppiles.

I tried to go to school work and babysit, but my schedule is just to busy and I have other responsiblites.

To the point, I%26#039;m 23k in debt and I don%26#039;t have a job, consumer credit can%26#039;t help me unless i have one.

When I call my creditors they want me to make promises i cant keep.

What should I do to get myself on track?

** please don%26#039;t make suggestions that my brother should get a job and help me, he%26#039;s not mentally able.**

thanks for all your advice.

I am In Big financial trouble, what can I do to dig myself out?

I%26#039;m generally a big fan of non-profit consumer credit counseling orgs, although as you point out, they can%26#039;t really help you if you are out of work.

One thing I would suggest that you do is try to put a dollar value on what you are receiving from your friend for babysitting. How much would you have to earn to get the food, shelter, and minimal supplies that she is giving you. If you could get a job that would pay you at least that much, you would be able to to qualify for consumer credit counselling, and probably have a big boost to your self-esteem in the process.

Lots of people work full time and also go to school. It may be necessary to cut your school hours back a bit if it%26#039;s too much.

You don%26#039;t go into detail about your brother%26#039;s mental disability. Is it severe enough that you may be able to obtain assistance from the state? It sounds like you have enough on your hands building a future for yourself, much less having to support your brother as well. It may be that there are programs available to help you.

As a last-resort solution, you may want to consider bankruptcy. Most reputable bankruptcy attorneys will provide a free initial consultation. It may be that your best bet is to write off your past debt, and work toward building a more stable future for yourself and your brother.

Good Luck!

I am In Big financial trouble, what can I do to dig myself out?

I can%26#039;t believe consumer credit counseling wasn%26#039;t able to help you. Go to another non-profit organization that offers credit counseling.

You have to get a job. There%26#039;s no getting around it. Postpone school till you get some financial stability. Besides, how were you going to pay for school anyway?

Good luck!

I am In Big financial trouble, what can I do to dig myself out?

I am sorry to have to suggest this but I agree that you might need to put off school until you have your finances under control. I wish I could go to school but I know I cannot afford it so I have to wait.... we sometimes have tough decisions to make and this is going to be one of them.

I saw your added info... your friend is paying for your education? That sounds like a good arrangement but it isnt going to do a thing for your finances if you can%26#039;t get a job as well.

I am In Big financial trouble, what can I do to dig myself out?

Can you declare yourself bankrupt? It%26#039;s not that bad (in Roman times you%26#039;d be executed!), in fact most wealthy businessmen do it as an option. You might be able to transfer any assets into your brother%26#039;s name.

Then you can start again.

I would also look into taking legal action against your dad- he might have to pay to help support your brother.

I am In Big financial trouble, what can I do to dig myself out?

similar happened to my friend, not quite the same but similar,

put your brother in a care facility ( it is best if only temporary)..

or see if a centre will help and give you low housing because of his %26quot;mental capacity%26quot;..

and let you stay with him as partial care giver..

social workers should have some kind of help because of your brothers %26quot;mental capacity%26quot;..i really think you should stabilize that............and should be able to get help through that area.....then you can improve your own situation

I am In Big financial trouble, what can I do to dig myself out?

Working generates income. Income may be in different forms. Maybe in the form of salary or wages.

Seek opening at fast food outlets such as McDonald%26#039;s or KFC first. Later, you can seek openings at other places.

Don%26#039;t give up hope.

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

I work with a lot of people who for whatever reason end up pregnant, but as soon as they know they%26#039;re pregnant it%26#039;s a case of %26quot;grabbing%26quot; everything they can get. Most will move from claiming just Income Support/Jobseekers Allowance to the full whack such as child benefit, tax credit, new start grant, community care grant, etc etc etc

Whilst I don%26#039;t grudge these people those benefits I%26#039;ve noticed more and more now that it%26#039;s not thought of as a social service they expect, they demand this money. What bothers me is that they get pregnant and then expect the state to support them for the next 18 years and just before that time%26#039;s up get pregnant again, so in theory they can avoid having to work all their life. What are your views on this matter?

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

You are in danger of tarring any that claims benefits with the same brush but you make valid points.

The benefit system (and not just for those with kids) is a career choice now, not the safety net and a temporary solution it should be.

My neighbour recently returned to work when her daughter started school. She is 鎷?0 a month worse of that she was when she claimed benefits (she has to pay for after school care and has lost the rebates on council tax etc). It should never be more economical to live on benefits that work, the minimum wage needs to be addressed.

We both work, always have done. I took maternity leave then worked weekends for the first 18 months of my son%26#039;s live. We were lucky and able to afford that (we made the scarifices nessecery) but got the princely sum of 鎷?4 a month in tax credits. I returned to work part time and only do about 18 hours a week. Out of what Iearn 鎷?60 a month goes to pay the nursery - thats about 1/3rd of my monthly wage but hey - it keeps me sane, I%26#039;m still earning more than I was. But it infuriates me, it always seems those that do nothing get more. There are families claiming everything going, childcare, school uniform, milk tokens, furit and veg vouchers, free school meals, motability cars (apparantly being obese is a disability now) and so it goes on and on.... You choose to work for a living you get nothing!

So, the root of the problem is that the government has made living on benefits to easy and now the second generations are coming through with no working ethic installed. I%26#039;m only 24 but I remember my dad working all the hours he did and my mum working when we were at school. Not working has never been an option, I come from a proud hard working family and so does my partner. This has been passed onto us and in turn will be passed onto our son. There are families where 3 generations haven%26#039;t worked in years, sit around smoking, claiming whatever they can and complaining in turn raising bitter idle children who won%26#039;t work a day in their lives.

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

Because the system is in place for them to do so!....

Blame the government, and some parents......

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

not everyone who is on benefit is like that. I appreciate that that is what some people do, but dont tar everyone with the same brush

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

Because we sadly let the get away with living like this.

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

Dont blame the inmates, blame the asylum!

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

Where I live, it is also done deliberately to get a bigger/better council house. It is despicable, no self respect, and God help the children - what chance do they stand.

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

I think it stinks but if the system allows it how do you stop it?

Spot on Noo Noo.

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

Because the government have kindly provided them with a reason never to work as long as they keep popping out the kids.

Alot of them are better off not working and claiming all of those benefits than those of us who struggle to pay our way.

Don%26#039;t get me wrong I get child benefit like evryone else and I also get working tax credit like the vast majority of parents, but I also work and my husband works all the hours he possibly can to help us pay our mortgage and other bills. It is hard to swallow that while we are busting our guts people are getting more than us by not doing anything at all.

Maybe we are the foolish ones and they are the smart ones!!

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

my views are like yours i know women who have never worked as they are having children most of their teens and early twenties, i work hard and when my two boys were growing up i went to work when their father came home, but nowadays the mothers want to keep digging into the benefit tub without putting anything back , but i wouldnt swap my life for theirs i can enjoy holidays and buy nice things because i work hard what future do these mothers have

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

I have no problems with them being given aid, but I believe it should be cut off at a certain number of children, not only for population control, but to also stop these people who just have kid after kid to sponge off the state.

I%26#039;m on disability living allowance and income support, due to an untreatable version of Epilepsy that prevents me from working, and whilst I%26#039;m on a tidy sum, if all these spongers and illegal immigrants went back to where they came from, I%26#039;d be receiving more money, and so would departments that really need it, such as the NHS and education, (especially if the UK stopped helping the US in their illegal war), plus, the TAX rates would go down.

Don%26#039;t read me wrong, I was abused into quitting my job because of my Epilepsy, and I want to work, and as soon as it%26#039;s possible to at least inhibit my Epilepsy and control it, I%26#039;m gonna%26#039; be right out there, looking for a job, so I can complain about TAX like everyone else, (see how pumping more money into the NHS would be beneficial, cutting the ammount of people, such as myself, on permanent sick leave).

I know some people will call me a sponger, but realise that I%26#039;m only claiming what I%26#039;m legally entitled too, and see if you could cope with a severe form of Epilepsy for 9 years, and if they were permanently disabled such as myself, then I would encourage them to seek benefits too, it%26#039;s our right as red-blooded Anglo-Saxon%26#039;s.

But having kids just so you can sponge money off the state and sit back watching QVC all day; that%26#039;s just plain wrong, I say limit each family to say, 3 children, to control the population problems in this country, and also reduce our national debt.

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

I have daughters in their early 20%26#039;s and each and every one of their friends has children, in fact, most of them had more than one child by the age of 20. None of these girls has worked a day in their lives yet, they go on to have more children expecting the state to keep them. The benefit system is there to help the genuinely needy, not the people who have no intention of ever working. Perhaps if the benefit system wasn%26#039;t as easily accessible to these people, they might think twice about producing babies that they can%26#039;t afford to keep.

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

Well I have 5 children and my partner and I both work. We get child benefit and tax credits. I notice you said move on from income support to get child benefit etc, but everyone gets child benefit , even millionaires! I do think that it should be more difficult to get certain benefits as there are people who milk it. Not just people with children either. I know of many adults of all ages, who live on benefits and make no effort to work at all. I overhear them ranting on the bus about how their off to get a crisis loan because they haven%26#039;t got their giro, and they%26#039;re entitled to it. That annoys me. I don%26#039;t see why they feel they should be entitled to anything when they spend their whole life scrounging. I work in a pub and I see the same old faces on the days they get paid, spending their money on shooters and vodka. I think that a benefit system is needed and people should get them. I was on benefits myself when I split up from my first partner and was a single mum with 4 small children. Not all people take the p**s. But there are definately a lot who do. I went to college a couple of years back and did 2 years of full time courses. As this is a small place and small college, there are no more courses left for me to do, so I thought I%26#039;d like to try the open university. The courses are really expensive though and I can%26#039;t afford it, even with the help of the ila. It%26#039;s just money, I don%26#039;t have. Yet, if I were on benefits, I would be able to get it all for free. I find this very unfair, as I would love to be able to do a degree or something, but can%26#039;t. Yet if someone is a single parent, or can%26#039;t be bothered to go to work, they could get any course they wanted. It%26#039;s the same with clothing grants, school meals (that costs me over 50 pounds a week), prescriptions, dental treatment etc. We can%26#039;t get any of that. We both work hard and have to pay for everything ourselves. I can%26#039;t afford to go out every week and haven%26#039;t been on holiday with the kids for five and a half years, and that was when I saved the tokens from the sun newspaper. Not that I%26#039;m winging and moaning, it was my choice to have my kids and the tax credit scheme is a great help to us, but it is annoying the way some people get it laid on a plate for them. Even my son, who turns 16 in a few weeks has been working in a takeaway every weekend for the last 2 years, and my 14 year old has been doing a bit of work here and there too.

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

Because the government allows then to x

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

I know exactly what your talking about.

This what I am about to say is related slightly.

A person worked where I did and you know she was never at work.

She had a right little thing going,

Every year she would get pregnant and although employed,was never there

Reason When she was not at work she was either claiming Maternity Benefit or Taking her holidays allowed from her work place.

What a SCAM

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

Because they can,

And the state will pay,

Blame the state,

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

its another way of getting out of going to work, to breed like a rabbit.

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

As long as the system allows them to do it, they will do it. They know that they will get it for the sake of the child.

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

you are right

and these seem to be the people having larger families

i know of some families where there is a child in each school year for six or more kids - and guess what? neither parent works or is likely to....... some language problems....

i have three sons and have had to pay for everything ......i would have liked a fourth child but found full time work and three kids a handful.....perhaps if i had never worked i%26#039;d have had my fourth child

it is a good job that there are mugs like me and my husband to help to pay for these children of parents who don%26#039;t try to support their families...

Why do some people get pregnant, but expect the state to pay for their child?

being a unwed mother is a full time job, and after all she is providing the state with potential canon fodder.

National healthcare?

Health care provided to everyone in the country, who wants it. The key is, for people who want it. If you choose not to use government health care, you will receive a tax credit come tax time. Also the only way in which you could receive government health care is if you employer does not provide any. Would something like this be acceptable.

From my point of view, I would do whatever I could as to not use the government provided health care, as private health care will be infinitely better. However if I lost my job, and something happened to one of my family members, you could be damn sure I would use the government provided health care. I spent a year in a hospital when I was younger, and one of the bills that I saw was over $500k (luckily we had insurance). How could anyone but the top 1% afford that bill?

National healthcare?

There are too many misconceptions regarding national health care. It will not be government run, only govt funded. You WILL have choices as to plans %26amp; doctors. For more info, click on this link:

http://www.hillaryclinton.com/feature/he...

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National healthcare?

And if you do use government health care, you need to participate in random drug testing.

National healthcare?

Dude, if employers have the option not to pay for privatized care, why the hell would they? Duh!

National healthcare?

Maine has that option... it%26#039;s called Maine Health Care... isn%26#039;t free but it is provided to people below a certain income level!!

Need to know if this is normal?

getting a home purchase loan threw envision lending group.. got pre-approval. found a house. put a bid in.. put earnest money down. now this has been goin on for about 3 wks now. now the loan processor has found 3 things on credit report that needs taken care of.. we called these companies.. and THEY have no record of us.. so envision lending guy is going to send us a letter for us to sign to see if he can call them and have them deleted.. we have been trying to buy this house since march 7. Everytime we get close.. something new comes up. THEN our loan processor NEVER returns our calls or emails. SHE DISAPPEARS!! excuses excuses? What is going on.. THEN i do call the HEAD honcho%26#039;s and the loan processor get upset with us.. Are we being screwed? need advice

Need to know if this is normal?

Your loan processor isn%26#039;t doing her job. Call her boss and ask to be reassigned.

Need to know if this is normal?

Lenders are changing the rules daily so your loan officer is probably just as frustrated as you are but she should at least acknowledge that and let you know what%26#039;s going on.

You must be intent on buying the home though since most PA%26#039;s are written that if you can%26#039;t get your financing you can get out of the PA (depending on how your agent wrote the paperwork)

With mortgage rules changing constantly ~ MOST folks are waiting to put in offers until they actually get the preapproval since pre qualify only means a loan officer has looked at pay stubs etc and thinks you should be able to get a loan based on the docs but the approval comes only after all documents have been reviewed by the lender and your loan is actually approved.

It%26#039;s frustrating and to get items removed from your credit can take up to 30 days (sometimes longer) Maybe if you tell your loan officer your on her side but you need to be kept informed and ask her what else you can do to help get the loan through (letter of explanation, copies of things already paid for etc) Then she might be more willing to call you to keep you in the loop.

I realize that isn%26#039;t fixing your dilemna but maybe understanding it better will alleviate some frustration. Good Luck

Need to know if this is normal?

The loan person isn%26#039;t doing their job for starters. A similar thing happened to my wife and I. You may lose out on this house, if the seller%26#039;s realtor thinks you%26#039;re taking too long. Start calling the supervisor of your loan officer.

But there%26#039;s a few things you can do to fix your credit problem. If the companies are saying they have no record of you, they should have the items removed. If not, go to www.annualcreditreport.com It is the government site to your free annual credit report. No strings attached. Get your credit report from all three credit bureaus. Then find the items in question and dispute them. There should be instructions on how to do this on each of your credit reports. If these companies are telling the truth and they have no record of you and it%26#039;s on your credit report, they are required by law to investigate and remove if necessary.

In my experience, even if it is a legitimate credit issue, many creditors will still remove the items if they%26#039;ve been paid. I had three companies remove bad debt from my record even though it was legitimate. It%26#039;s because it%26#039;s cheaper for them to just say %26quot;take it off%26quot; rather than investigate and prove the debt was/is yours.

Good luck, and be prepared, you may have to find a new house if it takes too long. But you will get your down payment back. Or at least should if the contract was written correctly.

Need to know if this is normal?

It can be so frustrating, and yet you will need to find the ability to be patience. The key to your approval does not rest with the loan processor(they are just the gather of the info) but with the under-writer. You did not say what type of lender your are working with, direct portfolio or not, it makes a difference in how the info is process. A direct portfolio lender can under-write on the spot and does not take the time to approve that a non-direct lender does. Having said all that the best way to ensure that you get a even chance with the loan processor is to ask her if there is anything else you need to do to help her process this loan, and then I would ask when is she/he going to submit it to the under-writer, usually when the under-writer gets it there will a couple of conditions, like an appraisal on the property, etc.

I would ask the processor if the loan has been submitted to the under-write yet? If, not I would suggest that is where I would focus my attention. The processor has a better chance then of knowing what the real issues with your loan may be. Do you have an agent and where is she/he? My last recommendation is do you have a rate lock on this loan if not that is something to think about.

My mom just recieved medicine she has to take for life!?

she really upset about it and thinks shes too young. (41) it also was a lot of money and she had tp charge it on her father in laws credit card(he doesn%26#039;t care) but she feels horable.

any popular songs i can play for her or anything else i can do for her.?

My mom just recieved medicine she has to take for life!?

tell her you love her and help her all the way

My mom just recieved medicine she has to take for life!?

You should comfort her and just try to help her with anything she needs . Songs. ???not suree.

My mom just recieved medicine she has to take for life!?

%26quot;mother%26#039;s little helper%26quot; by the rolling stones... I just got on cholesterol medication that I%26#039;ll be taking for life, and I%26#039;m 33. These are the wonders of modern medicine and a good thing.

My mom just recieved medicine she has to take for life!?

Just let her get over it. Listen to her. Some people have to take medicine for life when they are much younger than she. ( but dont mention that to her as I am sure it wont help)

My mom just recieved medicine she has to take for life!?

There are a lot of worse things in life, no offense. I%26#039;m only 18 and I%26#039;m on medication for life. Just support her but really, there are a lot worse things in life such as dying at an early age.

I did not get a clear answer to my question, please let me word it different.?

I owe 25 thousand dollars in credit cards.

I閳ユ獡 55 and about to get laid off and due to health reasons don閳ユ獩 plan to work again.

My question. What happens if I STOP paying my credit cards?

I don閳ユ獩 have savings, home or car; can the credit card companies come after my 401k which has more than enough to pay off debts. Can they come after my social security checks?

Again, I plan to tell my credit card companies to go jump in a lake, I閳ユ┇ NOT GOING TO PAY THEM! Can they throw me in jail???

I could not care less what happens to my credit history since I might to be dead soon.

All I want to do is spend my last remaining years enjoying my hard earned 401k money.

How could they get me??

I did not get a clear answer to my question, please let me word it different.?

What they can do is go to court and get a judgment against you. That judgment can be used to seize any assets you have and/or used to file liens against a home or other property you may own. But my understanding is that 401k funds cannot be seized to satisfy a judgment... however, that may vary depending on your state laws so please consult an attorney to be sure. You may find that the money in the 401k is exempt, but any withdrawals you make can be seized since they are no longer in the 401k. I don%26#039;t think they can take your Social Security checks either.

A judgment has a life of 5-10 years in most states but can be renewed. Whether a bank will go to court probably depends on how much you owe them. For example, if you owe 50 different banks $500 each, it might turn out that none of them will bother. If you owe one bank all $25,000, they are sure to go to court.

I do not believe they can put you in jail no matter what. Again, in your case it%26#039;s important to clearly understand what could or could not be done so please talk with a lawyer to know where you stand. It would be worth it just for the peace of mind.

I did not get a clear answer to my question, please let me word it different.?

They will probably sue you...and come after what little you do have.

Having spent their money, I don%26#039;t understand why you refuse to pay them. Try consolidating so you can make payments, and contact them regarding your employment difficulties, you can probably work something out. You may have to go bankrupt if you can find no alternatives here... my parents-in-law just did to get out of their debt.

I did not get a clear answer to my question, please let me word it different.?

They can come after any assets you have. They can (and will) set the collections agencies after you. They will go after your estate after you die.

You%26#039;re 55 so you may have to continue to work unless you get on the dole early.

You are so right, who cares about what happens to your credit rating. It%26#039;s the rest of us poor slobs who have to make up the difference and pay off your bills as well as support you because you aren%26#039;t working.

IMHO people have to have the moral integrity to pay what they legally owe. You borrowed the money in good faith so you should pay it back.

I%26#039;m sure you%26#039;ll enjoy getting the collections calls and letters every day. I%26#039;m sure your family will enjoy getting the calls of collections looking for you.

Controlling mother.?

I am 25 and I%26#039;m beginning to realize that my mother is a highly-irrational control freak.

After living on my own for a year, my fianc茅 %26amp; I moved to my parents%26#039; house to get out of a bad roommate situation. That was three months ago and we%26#039;re trying like hell to get out. Everytime I tell her about a potential place, she finds a way to shoot it down. She blew off the idea of co-signing for us to get a place (because we have no credit) because she doesn%26#039;t care if we ever leave or not.

I mentioned today that I would like to take over medical insurance payments someday, and that coupled with the fact that I wouldn%26#039;t like living on a piece of land with my whole family around (just a pipedream anyhow) apparently = I want NOTHING to do with my family at ALL. She says that %26quot;love doesn%26#039;t last%26quot;, and that my fianc茅 %26amp; I can%26#039;t live on our own without anyone else.

The most hurtful thing about her is that she is EXTREMELY against us ever having a family -- ever.

Controlling mother.?

While your mother is an %26#039;obvious controlling personality%26#039; YOU are equally responsible for the situation you are in now ... you are LETTING HER CONTROL YOU. That%26#039;s not really as %26#039;bad%26#039; as it sounds, though, since she has always been %26#039;controlling%26#039; so it%26#039;s what you %26#039;know%26#039; ... but your %26#039;problem%26#039; is %26#039;how do I get out of this situation%26#039; and NOT %26#039;lose%26#039; your mother entirely. I can give you some %26#039;help%26#039; with that.

First, you and your boyfriend need to %26#039;sit down privately%26#039; and make a %26#039;list%26#039; of things you need to do ASAP, and a second list of %26#039;rules%26#039; both you and your mother will %26#039;have to%26#039; follow ...

on the first list, at the very top, put %26#039;MOVE OUT OF HERE!!!%26#039;

Also put %26#039;have a baby when WE are ready%26#039; (not your mother, father, brothers, sisters or in-laws, but YOU and your boyfriend). Next ... why don%26#039;t you and your boyfriend get married? You say he%26#039;s your %26#039;finace%26#039; and that means that you do intend to get married someday ... and NOW is as good a time as any. So put %26#039;get married%26#039; on your list. And below that put %26#039;take a LONG honeymoon%26#039; ... and under that put %26#039;move into our own place.%26#039;

Now, for those %26#039;rules%26#039; ... you must ALWAYS STAND FIRM when you are speaking to your mother ... TELL HER what you are GOING TO DO, and don%26#039;t ever %26#039;ask%26#039; if you should, because her answer is always going to %26#039;shoot down%26#039; your %26#039;idea.%26#039; Second, tell her that YOU ARE DOING THIS no matter what she says ... and then KEEP TALKING (over her %26#039;protestations%26#039; if necessary) but keep your voice level %26#039;low%26#039; and speak %26#039;reasonably%26#039; in %26#039;firm language%26#039; and DO NOT ASK QUESTIONS of your mother at all EVER.

Second, put %26#039;firm dates%26#039; on everything you tell her ... we are getting married on (date). We are going on our honeymoon on (date) and we will move into our own place on (date) ... and we will have a baby WHEN WE ARE READY, PERIOD. If you use this type of language, there will be nothing your mother can %26#039;control%26#039; or even attempt to take control of. You have set the dates, the plans are %26#039;in motion%26#039; and ALL SHE CAN DO IS HELP or GET OUT OF YOUR WAY.

Most people who are %26#039;controllers%26#039; are actually very %26#039;scared%26#039; by life, which is %26#039;why%26#039; they want %26#039;complete control%26#039; of everyone in their life. So, TELL YOUR MOTHER THAT YOU LOVE HER, and tell her that you will always be her daughter, and that you will love %26#039;visiting%26#039; her when you are %26#039;on your own%26#039; and especially after you have your baby (and possibly the second, third, and fourth and more, depending on what YOU want) and that you are %26#039;looking forward%26#039; to her %26#039;help%26#039; in raising the kids (she did %26#039;raise you%26#039; and while you aren%26#039;t %26#039;perfect yet%26#039; she%26#039;s probably done a good job) but ONLY ON YOUR TERMS. In short, what you will be doing is %26#039;taking control%26#039; of yourself and your life, but giving her the %26#039;opportunity%26#039; to be a welcome part of that life.

Parents are very %26#039;fragile%26#039; things, sometimes. Your mother may not think that what she is doing is trying to %26#039;control%26#039; your life ... but because you and your fiance %26#039;moved in%26#039; with your parents, you GAVE HER THE CHANCE ... and of course she is %26#039;scared%26#039; for you to %26#039;leave her%26#039; ... because then she won%26#039;t be able to %26#039;control%26#039; you AND KEEP YOU SAFE FROM HARM!

So ... grab your boyfriend and a few pieces of paper and a pen, go into your bedroom (which I hope is the same room) and start %26#039;writing%26#039; ... then YOU (with your boyfriend behind you but YOU must do all the %26#039;talking%26#039; and he%26#039;s just to %26#039;back you up%26#039; silently) go have that %26#039;talk%26#039; with your mother about %26#039;the way things are going to be from now on.%26#039; If you are %26#039;firm%26#039; and seem %26#039;secure%26#039; your mother might actually think that you are FINALLY %26#039;grown up%26#039; enough to %26#039;live on your own%26#039; ... and if she doesn%26#039;t, then at the very least, you will have a %26#039;plan%26#039; to work from so that you can %26#039;escape%26#039; from your mother and her %26#039;controlling%26#039; ...

Controlling mother.?

Emotional blackmail. It sucks and a lot of mothers (including mine) are like that. You have to tell her to respect you and leave you alone.

Controlling mother.?

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Controlling mother.?

You need to become financially independent of her. That%26#039;s the bottom line (no pun intended).

With both you and your fiance working, you should be able to afford an apartment, so move out ASAP and forge your own path.

Controlling mother.?

move out and rent somewhere cheap.

Controlling mother.?

Time to cut off your mom. Go find a place to rent. No credit is better than bad credit, believe me. Go get a credit card and make the payments early and about $10-20 more than the amount is due. You can get one that has a limit of $500. It is usually $25 a month.

Controlling mother.?

Hey,

Email me.. at Hpulka@yahoo.com

I have the same problem....I have a child and my mom calles everynight at 8:30 to make sure I put her to bed on time.. My mom sounds alot like your mom. I am aslo 25.

Controlling mother.?

You need to stand up to her to get her to stop!

Controlling mother.?

Do not listen to her. Get out a soon as possible. I live 4,000 miles away from my mother, and our relationship is so much better now. Good luck.

Controlling mother.?

Sounds like she%26#039;s jealous that your fiance has %26quot;taken%26quot; you away from her. I had a similar situation with my mother. After you move out and have grandkids and get married, I think she will eventually come around. Is she married? Maybe she%26#039;s lonely and needs a companion herself.

Controlling mother.?

Just be a big girl and you and your fiance should rent an apartment and start to build credit. She is understand eventually but you can not live with her if you want your marriage to work. You should grow up and become independent. DO you have a car? a job? a cell phone? If so then there is no reason to stay living with mom just because she has psychological issues with having a family.

Controlling mother.?

I agree with cesc%26#039;s answer BUT you cannot tell her that while you are guests in her home. So calmly make some plans to get a good job and make some money. Then you can be on your own. It sounds like you should have stayed in the %26#039;bad roommate%26#039; situation. As long as you are living in your parents home you will be their little girl. So make plans soon to move out. And she was not wrong to not co sign and what she said about children was true. It will destroy your marriage if you have children and no money

Controlling mother.?

you need to tell your mom how you feel and taht you have your own life live. She will get over in time. And if you want a family don%26#039;t let her get you down go for it. Couples living with parents is always stressful.

Controlling mother.?

Well, all you can do is get out of her house as soon as possible and give yourself some time to chill. Then you can calmly talk to her in an adult manner. If she cannot behave like an adult, then that is the end of the conversation. And tell her so. You have to stand up for yourself and don%26#039;t let her guilt you into doing something you%26#039;ll regret. Trust me, I know from experience!!! You have my sympathies......God bless you.

Controlling mother.?

Well there comes a time when all kids have to leave the nest. Is your mom single? I think she just needs companionship. Get her a dog or something to take care of. She needs to feel needed and you cant marry your mom. I know you cant ignore her and you are a grown woman. I think your mom should give you her blessings bc with or without her, you are going to get married. You have to respectfully stand up to your mother and you kind of have to stop caring about what she thinks because she has stop doing all the mothering that she can do for you. find peace with her in time but for now. argue your point

Controlling mother.?

You need to move,for your own good and your own piece of mind my Dear.you and your fiancee find a place that you are both happy with and move in.No matter what your mom says.Words do hurt more than getting beat up.Try and Tune her out if possible.It is going to be her loss when you have children,But by then you can only hope and pray she will come around to her senses.You are old enough to move and get your own life no matter what she says.When you do move out on good or bad terms send her a Thank you card for letting you 2 stay there.I hope all works out.

Controlling mother.?

My strongest advice to you is to get married and move out. I don%26#039;t care if you live in the tiniest apartment there is. That is part of the charm of starting out together. Your mother should not be a part of the equation.

If you can%26#039;t get married, then he should move out and make an independent life until he can afford to marry you. Your having children has nothing to do with your mother.

If she becomes upset with any of your decisions, apologise for upsetting her but tell her that she has done her job of raising you. She raised you to be strong and independent and capable of making good decisions. If the decisions you make backfire, they will be your mistakes to learn from.

Until you move out, you will have absolutely no peace of mind in your relationship with her. She will feel entittled to run your life because she is providing for you.

Good luck!

Controlling mother.?

Honey, my mother (I thought) was the most controlling person on the planet. First off, it%26#039;s hard to %26quot;let go%26quot; when you%26#039;re kids are growing up and you believe you know what%26#039;s best for them. But having said that, I%26#039;ll tell you that for now, I%26#039;d just cool my heels. Whenever she started her negativity, I%26#039;d remove myself over and over again from the scene until she %26quot;got it%26quot; that I wasn%26#039;t going to sit around and listen to it. Focus on his parents and how happy they are for you. Don%26#039;t bring it up to your mother expecting her to %26quot;change%26quot; or %26quot;act differently%26quot;. You%26#039;ll only be asking to be let down. My mother used to be so judgmental and say such nasty things to me. Once she wrote me a very hurtful letter in the name of %26quot;a God loving mother that only wants the best for her child%26quot;. I wrote her back. Basically told her to stop hiding behind %26quot;God%26quot; and that if this was the kind of God she served, I wanted no part of him....because the God I knew wouldn%26#039;t behave this way towards anyone...much less his child. Then I told her not to write me, call me, or contact me in any way until I could forgive her for all of the hurtful things she said about me and my husband. For six months I didn%26#039;t talk to her. My husband had instructions that if she called, to tell her I did not want to talk to her. Finally, I told her I was ready to forgive and move forward, but if she EVER talked to me like that again, or judged me so harshly, or said nasty things about me, that it would last a LOT longer than six months. It was so hard. I love my mother and I didn%26#039;t want to %26quot;hurt%26quot; her. But I couldn%26#039;t let her do that to me anymore. I felt like I lost my mother for six months. BUT....she NEVER did that to me again.

Controlling mother.?

Sounds so sad, but this situation is common, and i can%26#039;t tell you why she%26#039;s being like this, the only way you can find out is to have a talk with her calmley and ask her about all this and tell her how your feeling, my mom had the same promblem, my grandma was so contolling and always had something to say about my moms life, but hard as it was my mom says she just did what she wanted with her life, and to this day she still has something to say to my mom about everything, but she just smiles and goes on, and i know it hurts her, because she talks to me about it and tells me it bugs her and she has told her mom time and time again about this, but sometimes you can%26#039;t change the person and theres not much you can do but hope she comes around over time and realizes this is your life, and although she says she%26#039;ll leave and all that if you have kids, so be it, if you want kids, have kids, and over time she%26#039;ll realize your gonna do what you want with your life no matter what and she%26#039;ll want to see her grandkids...so, talk to her and if that doesnt%26#039; help there really isn%26#039;t much else you can do put patienlty smile and nod your head...lol...

Controlling mother.?

Most of the time parents want to protect their children from making mistakes. It may be that she is afraid for you to make some of the same mistakes that she made. Or maybe she believes that she sees something that could cause you trouble down the road. One thing to remeber is that she will always be your mother. God wants us to respect our parents. Maybe you should sit down with your mother and just tell her that although you love her and respect her, you would like her input on some of the decisions in your life, however the final decision is up to you and your finance. She loves you no matter what. Just remember they say what you do comes back on you times 4. Be respectful and loving but let you mom know that you have to make your own decisions and then be responsible for the decisions that you make.

Controlling mother.?

well, any Mother/Father would be reluctant to see their daughter leave the house but, keeping you from Moving on at 25 is selfish and wrong, you have a life to lead now (just like she did), and it%26#039;s time to move from the nest (it must be especially hard on your b/f). They won%26#039;t co-sign, so you%26#039;ll have to do it on your own. the problem with %26quot;HUMANS%26quot; is that they get too attached to %26quot;Family%26quot;. Look at every other specie of %26quot;Animal%26quot; (yes, Humans are in that class). As soon as the young are able to fend for themselves, they get cut loose. it%26#039;s best for their survival, watch %26quot;Nature%26quot; it teaches us things. I pretty much had the same problem as you when I was 22, I%26#039;m sorry to tell you (actually %26quot;Happy%26quot; to tell you), that you are going to have to put your helmet on for the %26quot;Battle%26quot;, check all weapon%26#039;s, %26quot;Lock and Load%26quot;, %26quot;side arm%26quot; is secure, Flak vest is %26quot;ON%26quot;. We%26#039;re Goin in ! you have to do this or you risk losing the man you love, go start your lives together, good luck, we%26#039;re ALL counting on YOU !

Controlling mother.?

You are the only one you have any control over. She%26#039;s not going to change, so you will have to. So while ( I hope) you are saving to get the hell out of there, please find a good counselor who is skilled in treating in co-dependency issues. Your behavior feeds into hers, and visa versa. When you learn to stand up on your own two feet she will have to back off a pace, because she will no longer be able to assume power over you. Do it now while you are young and before you have children. Otherwise you will be bringing them into the same dysfuncional family system as you are in. And you don%26#039;t want to do that, do you?

Controlling mother.?

I agree with lady cosmo. Don%26#039;t be mean just treat her like you would a pouting child. ie. %26quot;I am going to move away. I%26#039;m sorry you feel the way you do. I love you very much but I am an adult and need to have my own life. You can call or visit me if you like but this is what I have to do.%26quot; Like that. Very loving but firm and matter of fact. She will pout and no doubt really be sad but it won%26#039;t be as severe as she would like you to think. I think she is acting out for attention and to treat her seriously will only make it worse. I would start now. When she says something riddiculous tell her. Don%26#039;t be mean aggressive or insulting just say, %26quot;That%26#039;s not true, Mom. You know I am going to leave eventually.%26quot; or ignore her if it%26#039;s too outrageous. She sounds like she has a good heart just is very needy inside.

Controlling mother.?

your first mistake was moving into your mother%26#039;s house.

please! stop letting your mother control your emotions! it%26#039;s dragging you down.

my best advice is to let your mother know that while you appreciate her advice, you don%26#039;t want any unless you ask for some. stand your ground.

your mother seems to want to control your every move, and is trying to convince you that you%26#039;re incapable without HER.

all she is doing is interfering, and you are allowing it.

please, use your own brain, do what you feel is best for you. ignore your mother, and get out of her house !!

i feel for you, i really do!